Have you ever felt nervous while in the presence of somebody else? Kind of like you were walking on eggshells? Have you ever thought about why you might feel this discomfort around certain people?
In this episode, Nathan and Aaron answer all these questions and more as they share their observations and experiences as therapists.
In This Episode
- What is “respect out of fear”
- Why this is an unsuccessful way to connect with others
- How to realize if you’re subconsciously doing this
- How to connect with others in a healthy manner
What is “respect out of fear”
- Put simply, fear is forced, while respect is earned
- Fear is used as a tool in different relationships (romantic, parental)
- Results in a shallow connection with frequent skepticism
Why this is an unsuccessful way to connect with others
- Leads to people tending to avoid you
- Other people feel they have to hide their true selves around you
- Will utilize opportunistic lying and dishonesty more frequently around you
How to realize if you’re subconsciously doing this
- Become aware of the characteristics of somebody who operates this way
- Realize how you’re coming across to others
- People won’t be truthful and will begin to avoid you
How to connect with others in a healthy manner
- Take a look inside yourself
- Honor your own desires
- Communicate honestly
- Sign up for our free email course, 9 Ways To Overcome Fear & Self-Doubt, that will guide you through our process of facing fears and insecurities so that you can feel more comfortable in your own skin
- Book: Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
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Meet Nathan & Aaron
Nathan Hawkins and Aaron Potratz are both licensed therapists and clinical supervisors in the state of Oregon. They each own their own private group counseling practices and co-own a third group practice together. Nathan and Aaron have been in the field since 2004 and 2007, respectively, and have over 100,000 hours of therapy experience each. On their show, they discuss facing fears and common challenges from a therapist’s point of view, imparting wisdom and humanity to their viewers. Along the way, they hope to not only share their insights but bring some light-hearted entertainment to make the journey easier.